Be Fascinating With This "Trick"

The "trick" to being fascinating is to show interest in the other person. The best way to learn to be a great conversationalist... the same thing... show interest in the other person. This advice applies to anyone you interact with, so obviously, that means any man you meet, go on a date with, or get involved with. You should never quit being interested in the other person and you should never stop being interesting.

Of course, you don't want to have it always be just about them so the other side of becoming fascinating is to be interesting. The quick answer to being interesting is to get involved with life. Read newspapers, join groups, read a wide variety of books from fiction to non-fiction toself-help. Be interested in learning, interested in growing, in what's going on in the world and you will stay interesting, even after knowing someone for many years.

When you're determining whether or not you should continue to date a new man, one red flag to watch for is whether or not he's interested in you. Don't judge him on the first date, though, because the more interested he is, the more likely he'll be nervous, and the more likely he'll blow it on the conversation scale. So if there's any interest on your part, give him that second date.

Here's a "tool" to help you be interested and, because of the nature of the questions and the lively conversations that will come out of them, you'll also be interesting.

Someone needs to be in charge of creating a relaxing date, so why not have it be you? These questions will help.

I call this The Friendship Game because I originally created these questions as a game to play with guests at the dinner parties I hosted at least a couple of times each month. I put the questions in a basket, someone pulled out a question and answered it, then the next person would pull out another question. Everyone always loved playing this game.

So do the same thing with your date. Tell him you came across some fun questions and would he like to play. You can copy and paste these questions on a blank piece of paper then print them and cup them into individual questions you can pull from a pile. Doing this will keep him from feeling like he's being "interviewed" and you both get to play.

For those who are members of the Dating Support Center, these questions are set up and ready to print as little game cards.

The Friendship Game

For your next date, here are some questions that are out of the ordinary… questions that will be more interesting than "What do you do?" and "Have you seen any good movies lately?"

1st Date Questions:

1. What historical figure would you like to talk to and what would you say?
2. What do you think people most admire about you?
3. In what ways do you think you’re unique?
4. What are you really good at?
5. What is the most beautiful thing you ever saw?
6. What's your favorite way to spend time with friends?
7. What kind of artist would you like to be and why?
8. How would you like to be more adventurous?
9. What is your favorite place in nature and what do you like to do there?
10. Describe one of the happiest moments of your life.
11. What is one of the scariest things you’ve ever done?
12. Of what are you most proud?

2nd Date Questions:

1. What are your three favorite things to do?
2. On what do you most enjoy spending money?
3. What three things are you most thankful for?
4. What would you like to do for your work if money was not a consideration?
5. Describe one of your most embarrassing moments.
6. If you had to give away a million dollars, how would you do it?
7. In what ways can a friend count on you?
8. What is a favorite thing you like to do when you have time to yourself?
9. What makes you sad?
10. What is one of the bravest things you ever did?
11. What kind of classes would you like to take?
12. What was our favorite toy as a child?

3rd Date Questions:

1. What is a secret dream of yours?
2. What would you want to sayon national TV?
3. What are you afraid of?
4. What physical trait do you like best about yourself?
5. What would you do if you had only six months to live?
6. What do you like best about the way you look?
7. What makes you sad?
8. What do you like best about your personality?
9. How would you most like to celebrate your birthday?
10. What's the craziest thing you ever did?
11. What's the worst thing that happened to you when you were a child?
12. What was the most difficult thing about school?
13. In what ways are you
    disappointed about yourself?
14. How would you improve yourself?
15. In what ways are you most generous?

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To develop great social skills and become a fascinating person, you'll want to "show him how amazing you are" by doing Step #8 in The Smart Woman's Guide To Finding Love.

Once you've completed Creating Rapport That Leads To More (Step #8), you'll begin to have more fun with every encounter. Life is too precious to not have as much enjoyment as possible.

I'm here to help you have the confidence and skills to enjoy the relationship of your dreams. To help you do that, please take a peek at all the personal support and guidance you'll receive when you register for the Dating Support Center. From my heart to yours, The Heart Specialist