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April 2nd , 2008
Chris just returned after skiing his cute little buns off on 20 runs at Snow Summit up here at Big Bear. We've never skied here before and I'm just enjoying our scrumptious condo. I've been staying warm and cozy with my computer and having a lovely time.
In this issue:
1) Your First Impression Could Be Your Last
2) Girlfriends Can Help You Find Your Man
3) Did You Jump Start Your Heart Yet?
4) Listen In And Learn
5) Past Newsletters Are Now Available
6) My Videos Are Available
1) Your First Impression Could Be Your Last
A prolific researcher, John T. Molloy (of Dress For Success fame) says in his book, Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others, "The first impression made by a woman when she meets a man often determines the nature of the relationship that follows."
So how do you create a fantastic first impression?
- You should be yourself, but the best Sunday' version of yourself (with your Glow Flow® shining it's brightest)
- You should dress in such a way that your figure shows off your best curves but not too sexy (you want to be perceived as the woman he might like to wed, not the woman he wants to bed – it's either or for a large percentage of men)
- You should ask great questions and then be a good listener (get him to talk about himself and be interested but don't fake interest... then notice if he asks questions of you – but don't write him off because he could just be nervous)
- You should be upbeat and positive (this should be obvious)
- You should avoid going into detail about the problems with your past relationships or how cranky you can get when you're not feeling great (you don't want him to think you're one of those crazy, emotionally volatile, out-of-control kind of women that scare men to death – and if you are one of those kind of women, stop that kind of behavior)
- And because I'm the Heart Specialist™, I must remind you to keep your heart open to his so your energy connects and allows the possibility for magic to happen
To be "this good" on a date, you need to develop all the above skills so they become your natural way of being and new habits. The very best way to do that is to take our course, How To Stop Sabotaging Your Dating Success. That's because the primary goal of this course is to take you step-by-step through a process that will help you develop the right habits. These habits will cause you to outshine the other – probably younger – women he's meeting so he is intrigued with you enough to want to get to know you better. To get a man's attention,
you have to become the woman he can't stop thinking about. This is not about you becoming a "cookie cutter version" of the perfect woman but instead, enhancing all your best qualities so the true, unique and special person you are, shines bright. |
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2) Girlfriends Help You Find Your Man
Another thing that John Molloy discovered is that those women who have the best success finding a mate have several women friends with whom they socialize. They throw parties, go out together, see and be seen in places where eligible men are found. Those women he interviewed said when their girlfriends got married, and they were still single, things got very quiet and lonely on the social scene.
Here's something that you can do next week. I've suggested it before but it's a really good idea. Throw a party and invite every man and woman you know and ask each of them to bring a non-romantic friend of the opposite gender. They might not all be looking for a partner, but they might have friends who are. Practice your "glow flow" during the party and make a point to develop some female relationships if you don't already have a strong circle of girlfriends. If any of the new men at your party show particular interest toward you, and you encourage it with holding eye contact a tad beyond where it feels comfortable, standing tall, offering fun conversation, they will likely contact you after your party.
3) Did You Jump Start Your Heart Yet?
A significant thing I've noticed in working with people over 30 (especially now that I've had the opportunity to do a large number of Personal Dating Diagnostics) is that their hearts are either out of practice or shut down to love. Read our Philosophy and see if you fall into this category.
4) Listen In and Learn
Speaking of Personal Dating Diagnostics, if you're one of those who are sitting on the fence about whether or not to ask me for personal help, you might find it valuable to listen to a conversation I had last week with a Dating Success Technology Member. You'll get a feel for
how I work. Just go to the Diagnostics page.
5) Past Newsletters Are Now Available
You can read past newsletters here
6) My Videos Are Available
They're not professional but they do offer some good advice. Just go
here
With much love,
Kara Oh
The Heart Specialist™
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