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February 26, 2008
I'm sitting here by the warm fire that Chris built for me. Our dogs are curled up beside me, contentedly napping. I wonder if they're aware of the fire? There was a cute cartoon in the paper this morning where the owner of the dog, as she's dishing out his food, says to her friend, "He thinks this is a bed and breakfast." That's pretty much what Chloe and Sam think.
In this issue:
1) Finding Mr. Right
2) Visit Our Blogs
3) Tuesday Night Members Only Call
1) Finding Mr. Right
In order to find Mr. Right, you first have to figure out what you want. Most people think the purpose of dating is simply to find Mr. Right, but that's only part of the purpose. More important, you can use the dating process as a kind of classroom to learn: a) what qualities you want your ideal Mr. Right to have; and b) hopefully learning that to require your "Mr. Wright" to be 6' tall (or it's "Adios"), is a really bad idea. Through dating, you can experience what it feels like to be with the kind of man you "think" you want in your life and then discover that what you conjured in the privacy of your own mind – or in your young girl heart many years ago – isn't what really matters to you. Furthermore, your meeting new men through dating should also be about learning how to develop your own qualities so your true Mr. Right will want to make you Ms. Right .
Don't go on each date with the mindset that you're on a crusade to find your husband. Let go of that because it turns your energy into something quit repellent to men. Beside, you don't have to keep it in the forefront because you're not going to forget that's your ultimate goal.
Instead, be open to discovering things about yourself, about what you actually like in a man, and fine-tuning your interpersonal skills... like your ability to create heart-to-heart connections. One of the women on our call last Wednesday night for the course, How To Stop Sabotaging Your Dating Success, shared that what she'd learned in the course so far allowed her to spend an enjoyable evening with a man she knew wasn't someone she would want to go out with again. She said previously, she would have been thinking, "How quickly can I get out of this?" You can listen to this call here
But she remembered the importance of being kind, opened her heart to this man who was, just like her, looking for someone to love, and had a wonderful time. She said they talked for two enjoyable hours. But here's the most important lesson that she learned: she said she finished the evening feeling really great about herself. That's one of the most important things about Feminine Grace, which we teach you in our course, Let The Real You Shine Through – to be able to walk away from any situation, even when you need to be tough, with the person thinking, "Wow, what an amazing woman," rather than thinking, "What a b----!" Learning to feel great about yourself is the foundation of everything I teach. When you feel great about youself, you're happier, which causes you to glow (in Let The Real You Shine Through we call it Glow Flow™), and THIS causes you to be more and more attractive to men.
If you aren't clear about what you're looking for (other than those superficial items like physical appearance, income, where he lives, etc.) then you'll certainly want to consider very seriously taking our course, What Do You Really Want? 10 Steps To Finding Your Ideal Man and Your Ideal Relationship. Once you know what you're looking for, every date you go on will give you an opportunity to decide what you do and don't like in a man.
And what happens when you don't know what you want in a man deep within your heart? One thing that can happen is that you send Mr. Right on his way, not realizing that you just turned off the man who can love you the way you want. Another is that you get enthralled with a man who is completely wrong for you. And another is you waste precious time because you have no compass, no focus, no direction. And this can be disastrous because you finally give up, thinking there aren't any good men left. If you don't have a clear picture in your heart of what you want – other than that list of superficial qualifications – how on earth would you expect to recognize Mr. Right when you meet him? And how do you think Mr. Right will know that he has a great chance with you? Do you think, "I'll just know?" As Dr. Phil would say, "How's that workin' for you?"
If you're ready to put in the effort required to transform your ability to attract Mr. Right, why not sign up to become a Dating Success Gold Member today, right now! Then you can take advantage of the amazing discounts on all the courses. The two mentioned above would be a great way for you to start: Let The Real You Shine Through and What Do You Really Want?
Here are the links to learn more about How To Recognize The Right Man For You
Your signing up for two *free* months of our Gold Membership includes links to immediately download 3 eBooks, one of which is Men Made Easy. This advanced book is important to your success because it reveals 12 secrets about men. This book will give you a new understanding and appreciation for what men want from you so you can take greater control of how men respond do you. Use the principles contained in this book allows you to take charge of your interactions with men.
You know you need the right education to have the career you do. Dating is no different. Hollywood movies keep promoting the fantasy that when we meet Mr. Right, the rest falls effortlessly into place. This is absolutely not true. You must be proactive if you are ever going to enjoy the kind of relationship you want.
Why not test drive being a Gold Member *free* for 2 months? Our courses, the personal guidance and support that you'll get from Paige and I, along with the other members, will greatly help you stay on track to achieve your relationship goals.
3) Visit Our Blogs
Have you seen the new Lipstick Jungle? I love this and Cashmere Jungle because these 8 high-powered, successful women are doing so many things wrong in their relationships with men. To keep up on my insights into dating and successful relationships you can check out my almost daily blog posts. My blogs talk about much more than these two shows, but they're such a great illustration of what NOT to do! For example, Victory, one of the women in Lipstick Jungle, tells the man who is trying to win her over that "I don't like being rescued, I can do that myself." Talk about not understanding what men what from a woman! To read this blog post and others just go here:
Kara's Blog
Paige's Blog
4) A new service to Dating Support Gold members "kicks-off" this coming Tuesday Night
Members will now be able to ask each other questions and share experiences on our weekly Tuesday night Gold Member's only Conference Calls. Our new Tuesday evening Members-Only calls will give Paige and I the opportunity to get to know you individually, answer your questions, offer advice, and help you build your confidence through knowing that you are not going through this alone! Members will also get to know each other so when they begin to use the forum, there will be a greater bond and support network among our members. Paige and I can't really do our job if we don't get to interact with you on a personal basis. That's one of the primary reasons we want you to test drive what it feels like to be a Gold Member. It's *FREE* for 2 month's. How can you go wrong?
With much love,
Kara Oh
The Heart Specialist™
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