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February 5, 2008

Since our teleseminar this Thursday evening is to help you unearth 'How You Might Be Sabotaging Your Dating Success', there's something timely I wanted to share with you. It has to do with the new TV show on Bravo, Mill*ionaire Matchmaker airing every Tuesday at 10/9C. This might get to you too late to watch this evening but you can catch it next week.

Recently I mentioned that there could be just ONE thing that has stopped you from having the relationship you want. This TV show focuses on "mill*ionaire men" who need to be fixed to enable the shows' host to match them up with "cute young things." There is excellent insight for everyone in that it shows how these men have been "sabotaging their dating success" which is why they've paid big bucks to be hooked up on this show.

Last week one of the men, Julien, basically had no communication skills with women. He (and another man) got to meet about a dozen hand-picked beautiful young women to chose from for a first date. Julien's 'first choice' didn't want to go out with him (nor did any of the women) because he was so uncomfortable to talk to. But Patty, the Matchmaker, begged Julien's 'first choice' to go out with him so she could council Julien on how to stop sabotaging his dating success.

Here's where we can all learn something: Before their date, Patty arranged for Julien to have coffee with a dating therapist as a kind of "practice date." The therapist discovered that every time she asked Julien a question he answered back by asking her the same question. What he was doing was avoiding revealing ANYTHING about himself. Men do this a lot – and it does make women kind of crazy – but this guy was glaringly awful. The therapist pointed out what he was doing and coached him on how he could improve.

What was great is how quickly Julien was able to be a little bit better at communicating because he did actually answer some of his 'first choice' date's questions. With more training, Julien will eventually get good enough to be interesting. After her date with Julien, his 'first choice' woman told Patty that he was definitely better at revealing a small bit about himself, but she didn't want to go out with him again. (you guessed it -- Patty has more fantastic women to fix Julien up with as he learn how not to sabotage his first dates.)

One expensive session with a therapist isn't nearly enough, but a course like what we offer at Dating Success Technology would do this guy wonders. That's because our courses take people by the hand and guide them step-by-step to a new level of awareness (what the therapist did for Julien) so they can make the necessary changes to get the results they want.

This TV show demonstrates to all that, with assistance, people can improve. So please take advantage of our fr*ee teleclass seminar this coming Thursday at 8:00 p.m. EST (7:00 CST, 6:00 MST, 5:00 PST). The topic will be 'How You Might Be Sabotaging Your Dating Success.' Reserve your spot right now.

And if you can fit it in, before the teleclass, Paige and I recommend that you take our online Dating Fitness Quiz so you can begin uncovering some of the ways you might be sabotaging your dating success.

I look forward to getting to know you this Thursday.

With much love,

Kara Oh
The Heart Specialist™

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