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July 30th, 2008

How is your summer going? Have you been able to do those things you planed to do, things you wanted to enjoy? I sure hope so. Most important, what new and fascinating things have you learned about yourself and how are you a better person today than last summer at this time?

Because we're older and wiser, and because you've continued to receive my newsletters – some of you for many years – I'm sure that living a full and satisfying life is important to you, as it is for me. Being able to do that is determined by how well we move along our path toward the fullest expression and enjoyment of our essence. And did I mention that it's not always easy, sometimes pretty rough, but always, when you can step away from the emotionality of it, there is a lesson there somewhere.

In This Issue:
1) Are You Expressing Your Essence?
2) Ask Me Anything
3) 5 Ways To Turn a Man Off
4) You're Invited To A Special Visit From Lisa Crisalle of Over 40, Fit & Fabulous
5) Heart Connection Group on Facebook
6) Kara Oh's School of Charm, Seduction and Feminine Grace
7) S e x u a l Healing

1) Are You Expressing Your Essence?
Your essence is your true, beautiful, glorious, magnificent self. It is what is most attractive to men, especially as we and they get older. Are you consciously aware that within you is a woman who is your dream-come-true version of yourself? Do you know that she already exists, waiting for you to invite her to show herself, in her full glory? Are you aware that all you need to do is allow your essence to express itself?

Lately, I've learned how I have done my own essence a disservice by an unconscius belief I've held about myself. I just discovered this about myself and it came from my early childhood. Now that I'm aware of this belief I've had about myself, I'm staying aware of it so I can reverse old patterns that have caused me harm. If you want to read about it you can go here. I share it only to show you how this personal growth stuff works. It's pretty cool but not always easy to face.

Your essence is expressed through your creativity, through the joy of just being, by loving, by playing, by nurturing yourself as well as others, by enjoying the world through your senses when you take the time to enjoy a luscious scent, a truly amazing meal, the pleasure of touching silken cloth, the beauty of the sun shining through a flower, through sexual expression (which means allowing that energy to flow through, not necessarily having a lover), even by dancing in your underwear to your favorite music in the morning.

If you're tired, exhausted, listless, lonely, frustrated, angry, bitter, resentful, unmotivated, then that means you are not connected to your essence, you are not allowing and encouraging your woman energy to flow through you and you are not giving yourself the love and nurturing you need and deserve. If this is going on, how can you expect a man to be attracted to you or want to get close?

To enjoy your life, to draw love to you, to be loved and cared for by friends, family and a good man, you need to be expressing your essence as fully and completely as you can. Every time I get into one of my "potty holes" I know I am much less attractive to everyone with whom I interact. My course, Let The Real You Shine Through is all about you expressing your essence, which will cause you to fall in love with yourself like never before. This is particularly important because how you love yourself is exactly how a man will love you. You are the owner's manual for how to love you, treat you, respect you and enjoy you. If you aren't doing all these things for yourself, how can you expect a man to? So, my dear, lovely one, how is your essence? Are you showing it to the world? Are you enjoying it? Are you celebrating it? If not, I would be honored to show you how.

2) Ask Me Anything
Thank you if you are one of the several woman who have taken advantage of my new service to offer personalized, private advice via email. I've loved interacting with you. And a few of you have become members of the Dating Support Center and it's working really well so far. I absolutely love getting to know you so I hope you'll take advantage of this new service. You can learn about the Dating Support Center here. Of course, you can just ask one question at a time, but by being a member of the Dating Support Center you have the comfort of knowing that I'm right there for you, at your service, whenever you need me. I like that very much as well.

3) 5 Ways To Turn a Man Off
Read my blog post, 5 Ways To Turn A Man Off. These are 5 things you can do that will guarantee that men will be repelled by you. Of course, this is tongue-in-cheek but absolutely true. If you do one or more of the things on my list, notice if you make excuses for behavior or if you get defensive. Both of those reactions mean you know I'm right. And how did I learn about them? Simple, I talked to men. Read blog post here

4) You're Invited To A Special Visit From Lisa Crisalle of Over 40, Fit & Fabulous
Mark your calendar for the F R E E Teleseminar on Tuesday, August 26 so you can join in on the fun. I know this will be an entertaining and informative evening. I can't wait to have Lisa on to have her share her special way of inspiring women over 40 to be fit and fabulous. Next week you can register to save your seat.

5) Heart Connection Group on Facebook
I've been enjoying the group I started on Facebook to encourage people to consciously create heart connections in their lives. One of my members posted this ever-so-sweet video. I've seen it before but didn't know how to share it with you. It makes me laugh, cry and smile all at the same time. You can see it here or even better, set up an account at Facebook (it's f r e e), then join my Heart Connections group.
Here's the video.

6) Kara Oh's School of Charm, Seduction and Feminine Grace
My dream project is in the works. This is the most exciting thing I've ever created. That's all I can tell you right now. I'll share more later.

7) S e x u a l Healing
I met an amazing woman recently, Terra Wise. She helps women heal any kind of emotional scars that have to do with a woman's s e x u a l or reproductive issues. If there has been any kind of abuse or trauma, a bad relationship where it just wasn't good, maybe s e x u a l energy has gone dormant, or even if a woman has had a miscarriage and never healed the emotional scars... this is her speciality. I'm honored to have Terra join me in offering the help and guidance women need to be fully able to create deeply loving relationships. She has the energy of an angel and I'm sure you'll love her. Learn about Terra here.

From my heart to yours,
Kara

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From my heart to yours,

The Heart Specialist^(TM)

Kara Oh
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