back to women's newsletter archives

January 30, 2008

n this issue:

1) Eye Contact Is A Drug... Who Knew?
2) Be Happy, Get Noticed
3) Are You Getting My Blogs?
4) Inspiration For Women Entrepreneurs
5) Jeans For Mature Bodies

1) Eye Contact Is A Drug... Who Knew?
I was reading Dan Goleman's book, Social Intelligence (author of Emotional Intelligence) and he talks about a finding from the field of social neuroscience. One of the things he points out is: When the eyes of a woman that a man finds attractive looks directly at him, his brain secretes the pleasure-inducing chemical dopamine-but not when she looks elsewhere.

For years I've been advising you to linger with eye contact slightly longer than is comfortable as a clear signal that tells a man you're interested. Little did I know that during those moments, he's become a "feel good factory" with dopamine being manufactured within his brain. Talk about the power of your eyes. If this doesn't encourage you to give him those smoldering looks, I don't know what will. So go ahead, be a little uncomfortable and don't look away when the urge to look down hits you. He'll be associating his attraction to you with some very good feelings.

2) Be Happy, Get Noticed
I was watching a woman in the post office today and she had the kind of glow I teach women to develop in our course Let The Real You Shine Through. I asked her if she got a lot of attention from men and she said yes, but that she didn't know why because she doesn't dress sexy and she has a cute but not a knock-out body. I explained that it's because men are att*racted to *women* who glow with happiness and self-assurance, as she does. She's just another verification that men are indeed attracted to happy women.

To help you, I want you to do this exercise: Sit quietly by yourself and make a list of the qualities you would use to describe yourself. With each of those qualities, write how they are a benefit or a detriment to you being happy and the glow that comes from that. Give details of each. The next step is to determine which qualities you need to get rid of because they're causing you disharmony, discomfort, pain and unhappiness, and which qualities you can improve upon, because they're already benefiting you and you want more. Make a plan, then with dogged determination, keep working your plan until you have developed new habits. This isn't easy and most quit before they see results. I just want you to get a taste of what can happen when you take charge of your future happiness.

Are you willing to improve your life? This may sound like a strange question, but most people are not willing to do anything to improve their lives. So maybe this will help inspire you. What are you really good at? Did you get good at that accidentally or did you do whatever was needed? Did you go to school, take courses, read books, practice, practice, practice? Why is it that when it comes to personal development, most people are unwilling to get off their behinds and make the changes that will give them a better quality of life? It makes me crazy because I know from personal experience that when you make your personal development a priority, really good things happen to you.

If you want to get serious about improving your life, enhancing your level of happiness, and being able to attract a man and then know how to cause him to fall madly in love with you, you absolutely need to take the courses Paige and I have developed just for this purpose. Become a member, then take advantage of the discounts by ordering what I think is the most essential course for your future happiness, Let The Real You Shine Through. I've written books. They're useful to a point but they do not generally cause lasting changes. Most people read a book, get inspired for a brief time, then fall back into old habits and behaviors. I got tired of not being able to help women make life enhancing improvements in their lives. That's why I've put my heart and soul on the line by making these courses available to you. Take the first step to transforming your life... or keep doing nothing, which will keep you in the same spot you are right now... and maybe have been in for many years. It's your choice.
If you're ready to take a stand for your future happiness, become a member of Dating Success Technology then order Let The Real You Shine Through. You can begin tonight! Learn more here

3) Are You Getting My Blogs?
You might not know it but I blog almost every day. I missed several days while I was skiing in Tahoe last week, but it's pretty fun to comment on the wacky things that go on around us. You can actually set it up so you get notified every time I post a blog. Just click on the RSS at the bottom of the page. Here's my blog

3) Inspiration For Women Entrepreneurs
A friend from my Mastermind Group sent an article that I thought any of you who are entrepreneurs might enjoy. I've posted it at DatingSuccessTechnology.com and rather than just send you to that page, I want to remind you that we do have articles posted, and add to each week. Hers is titled Are You A Wild Woman Entrepreneur? Read hers and the other articles here

1) Jeans For Mature Bodies
I wear a brand of jeans that fits me perfectly and are extremely comfortable... plus they come in several colors. I was putting mine on the other night and realized I should share my great find with you. The brand is NYDJ, which I think is a play on DKNY. The letters stand for Not Your Daughter's Jeans. They fit, they're reasonably priced, and they're comfy. You can't go wrong if you've got a real woman's body. Just wanted to share.

With much love,

Kara Oh
The Heart Specialist™

back to women's newsletter archives