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May 5th, 2008

Feliz Cinco De Mayo!

Are you having fun today? If not, why not? What's got hold of your attention that you're worried, tense, frustrated, scared or angry? You get to choose how you live each day. Why not choose to go inside, let go of what's keeping you from being joyful, settle into your heart, and give yourself a great big inward smile. Notice how much softer you feel, how at peace you are. Take a deep breath and enjoy that feeling. You can take that feeling everywhere with you, even into ttomorrow afternoon's meeting, if you want. You really do get to choose.

This and previous newsletters are here

Feature Article:
Are You A Miracle?
Share Your Thoughts With Everyone
Check This Out:
MeetUp.com
Men Made Easy Audio Is Available
Kara Recommends:
Listen To My Interview & Other Experts
Teleseminars & Events:
Launch of Dating Basics Course And Teleseminar
On Life & Love:
Chris's Reaction To My Silliness

Are You A Miracle?
I was working this week with a lovely 28-year-old woman (one of my members) who is going through the course, Let The Real You Shine Through. I'm really impressed with her wisdom and her desire, willingness and dedication to her personal development. In the course there are 4 sections, Body, Mind, Spirit and Soul. In each section you are given opportunities to rate yourself on at least two dozen questions, then determine which areas you wish to work on improving. She wanted some help with the question: Do you see yourself as a miracle?

My top priority in everything I teach is to inspire you to be happy. When happiness becomes your natural state of being you are able to be more playful, to enjoy grace, peace, creativity, fulfillment and in the context of creating a fantastic relationship, you will be more attractive to the men you meet and when you're in a relationship, you'll be the kind of woman he'll stay in love with, be proud of, and want to do everything possible to care for you, treasure you, want to please you and love you completely.

So, getting back to seeing yourself as a miracle... Whenever we're in an emotionally safe place to see the miracle in anything: a baby, the ocean, the stars, a juicy plum, we gently slide into a feeling of awe. In that state, it is not possible to be angry, hurt, frustrated, jealous, sad, or feeling lack of any kind. When we are in awe of the miraculous, we can then easily see that we are a miracle. If you can't make it personal, just connect with the miracle of life, of being human, of your capacity to feel emotions, to think and imagine, and to contemplate God.

The first time I was jolted into that state of awe was over 20 years ago when I first learned about Quantum Physics. The fact that all matter throughout the universe from the stars to the fingernail on your baby toe are all of the same matter, and that matter is comprised of energy and space... mostly space. Awesome to consider. Then think about this, if we are made of the same "stuff" as the rocks in your back yard, but we can think, have a soul, can contemplate God, feel love... that is a miracle. So be in awe of yourself, really take into your being that you are a miracle, you are a creation of God, you are here for a reason... or you wouldn't be here. Primarily, you are here to expand your capacity for love. Your work in this lifetime is uncovering all that gets in the way of that. The more you are able to do that, the more you expand your potential to find your ideal partner, and to be able to create a relationship that truly will be beyond anything you have experienced before.

Share Your Thoughts With Everyone
I think it would be fun if you'd share your thoughts, opinions, gripes, etc. about my articles. So at the end of each article in the newsletters there will be a link for you to share with all 10,000 of us. I'll post your comments when I post the newsletter on the site. Because my tech assistant is dealing with some very serious family health issues right now, I can't fix the drop-down to include feedback. But it will come to me no matter what category you click on. I will post your comments and your first name only but not your email address. Let's have some fun with this. To comment on the article above include the title or subject of the article here

MeetUp.com
In this weekend's Los Angeles Times Magazine there was a fun article, Just Don't Call It Dating, about a new website I thought you should know about. (I tried to find the link but couldn't.) It's MeetUp.com and it's not a dating site but a site that offers lots of different activities that you can join. That way, you can do things you enjoy, have fun, and meet others with the same interest. If you meet Mr. Right, great, but mostly, you get out of the house, be with people, and live life. And who knows, you might meet someone who has a friend or brother they think you'd be perfect for. While you out having fun and socializing, you can practice all the skills you're learning from my courses, member assignments, and my articles. If you try it, please tell us how you like it here

Men Made Easy Audio Is Available
For those of you who are members, the audio version of Men Made Easy is now available. I can't believe it never occurred to me to post the audio before now. I recorded it in a fancy studio when my book first came out and 3 sets of CDs have been sitting on top of some books, right next to where I put my purse, staring at me but unnoticed. So now, everyone who has become a member for their 2-month test drive automatically got the download for the PDF version of Men Made Easy plus I ship out a signed copy. But just two days ago I had one of those thoughts that just land in your brain out of the blue: I should post the audio for everyone! For those who have purchased Men Made Easy previously, you can write to me and I'll give you the URL so you can download it onto your MP3 player. I'll send the URL to the members separately. In case you hadn't noticed, this is my sneaky way to entice you to enjoy your own 2-month's trial membership. It's *FR*EE* and you get to join us on the weekly TeleClass. This week's teleclass topic is: What Do Men REALLY Want? I'd love more women to come and play so why not give it a try. You can cancel at any time but if you don't come see what it's all about, you'll never know. Become a member here

Listen & Learn
The audio of my interview as well as several other experts are now available for your listening enjoyment here

Maybe there's a topic you'll find interesting:

Boomer Women: Finding The Joy In Midlife - Dotsie Bregel
Turning Fear Into Faith - Peggy McColl
Singles: Let The Real You Shine Through - Kara Oh
The Marriage Doctors Talk About The Secrets of Successful Marriage - Drs. Charles & Elizabeth Schmitz
It's Never Too Late To Be Smart About Dating - Judith & Jim
Be The *Rock Star) of Your Life - Sandy Grason
How To Become an Irresistible Magnet for Love, Money & Miracles - Jacquelyn Adana
Let's Talk Money: Coaching Yourself to Financial Success™ - Jenifer Madson
Thrive After Divorce: Turning Adversity into Opportunity - Carolyn B. Ellis
The 10 Biggest Mistakes People Make When Retiring & How YOU Can Avoid Them - Bill Losey, CFP®, CSA
Make Love, Not War: Healthy Communications Secrets For Your Love Relationships - Dri. Cindy Brown
Mind, Body & Nurition–The Three Key Elements To Achieve Your Lifestyle Transformation–No Matter Your Age - Lisa Crisalle, CFNS
Top 5 Ways to Reslove Your Eldercare Issues by Choice, Not Crisis - Barbara Freisner
The Joys and Challenges of Empty Nest, and How To Have a Healthy Relationship With Your Adult Children - NatalieCaine
Bring Passion and Purpose to Your Career - Carol McClelland, Ph.D.

On the download page you can scroll down and learn about each of these experts.

Launch of Dating Basics With Teleseminar
I'm finishing up a new course, Dating Basics, Everything You Need To Know To Get Started On The Right Foot. I will launch it on June 25th with a one time only live TeleSeminar. A sneak peek: One of the 15 Dating Mistakes is not being able to set aside your professional persona and slip into the pleasure of being a woman. In Dating Basics, I'll show you how. You'll have more fun and he'll think you're dazzling.

Chris's Reaction To My Silliness
Chris and I were driving to a movie on Friday and I was making a funny noise, which I'm known to do. (Hundreds of people over the years have told me I remind them of Carol Burnett.) He laughed and said, "So, is this you letting The Real You Shine Through?" Obviously, he was eluding to my course that that same title. I can be pretty silly and have a lot of fun. But, if Chris and I were still getting to know each other, it would not be a good idea to make weird noises. Actually, I have a silly, baby kind of voice I use sometimes and I remember my girlfriend, Lori, warning me not to show do that in front of a new man. If you have silly things you do, you might want to hold back until you're sure he's totally into you... just in case. Hopefully none of your silliness is gross. If it is, you might want to delete that entirely from your repertoire, including swearing.

Inspiring you to love,