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September 19th, 2008

I thought I'd sent last week's newsletter but it never went out. How embarrassing. I feel like such a silly. So here's a fresh newsletter, just for you.

In This Issue:
1) 3 Ways To Dress That Will Draw Him In
2) My Upcoming Radio Show
3) Coaching You To The Love Of Your Life
4) A Fun Gift For You and Your Friends

1) 3 Ways To Dress That Will Draw Him In
I have a wardrobe consultant that is amazing. Her name is Jennifer Butler and she is in Los Angeles. Her website is JenniferButlerColor.com. I've had my colors done but this woman goes way, way beyond what you think that means. She has 64 distinctions (not 4) and goes into what style you should wear, texture, jewelry, make-up, everything. She not only transformed my wardrobe but in a way, she transformed my life because the real me started coming out in a brand new, very exciting way.

If you can afford it, it's worth a trip to LA to get her to do your colors. Then, even better, fly her to your home to have your closet done. I had mine done and gave the gift of colors and wardrobe to Chris for his 60th birthday and it transform his life to the point that his students (he's a professor) began to treat him differently and now want to hang out with him, filling his office like never before in his 20 years of teaching. He wears his rapport colors on the first day of class with his undergrads and his power color when he needs to be in a high-authority position. It's quite magical how much color and style affects how others react to you. You have much more control than you realize.

Here's a photo of Chris and me in our Romance Reds on a vacation in Mexico. Can you see how mine is yellow base and his is blue?:

There are a few things I can pass along to you that will help you not just get a man's attention, but cause him to NEED to get to know you. First, even though you might not know your colors, Jennifer has what she calls your rapport colors. The first, and most powerful, is to wear your skin tones. This is tricky to figure out but if you keep trying flesh tones that go with your hair tones, you'll get close. A hint: you are either a blue base or a yellow base. I'm yellow base and Chris is blue base which has made finding colors to redecorate his home tricky. Autumns wear the most texture, winters the least. Look to nature to know. You can learn a lot on her website.

Wearing your rapport colors causes people to be drawn to you. When I wear my rapport colors I notice people of all ages staring at me with a warm, comforted look on their faces. It's fascinating. Men will feel very comfortable at the site of you, and will want to talk to you. If you are wearing figure-flattering styles, they'll be drawn to you like a moth to a flame.

A close second to your skin tone is to wear your hair colors. It creates a soft blend and makes you non-threatening and inviting.

Next, wear classy fabrics and styles. They don't have to be expensive, just very tasteful. Go to discount designer stores and you'll get a higher quality outfit. The reason to do this is to look sharper, but it will also give you a better fit and the fabric will hang more flatteringly on your body. Be sure that you only wear things that are flattering to your body. Men don't require thin, but they do want you to look healthy. (Yes, even if they aren't.) Watch 'How To Look Good Naked' to see what a difference the right clothes can do for a woman. And the better you feel about how you look the more confidence you'll exude. And confidence is very enticing. The woman who just lost the Dancing With The Stars, I think her name is Kim, admitted to being shy. She is beautiful, but her lack of confidence did not win her any fans and she got voted off.

Third, show your bust line off to it's best advantage. This usually takes the help of a good friend or qualified sales person to see what works best. Sorry, but the youngsters who are often working in clothing stores don't really know how to help you. Most men are attracted to a woman's b r e a s t s first. But don't show too much cleavage, either. It's more important that you offer a great shape. A little peek is okay but if you flaunt your b r e a s t s in a way that a man can't think of anything else, then even a real gentleman will be distracted from focusing on discovering who you are. Plus, you don't want any confusion as to what you're looking for. Too much emphasis on your b r e a s t s and he might think you're not interested in a relationship but just a fun romp. The next favorite body part is the bottom. My Chris is a derriere man. If yours is larger than you like, then wear dresses and skirts that give you a nice curve without showing the entire package. And, as Diane Cannon's new book title says, The Legs Are The Last To Go. Show them off with sexy shoes.

If you put yourself together using all the above, especially your rapport colors, you will find men not only noticing you, but wanting to get to know you. Jennifer also warns not to wear your romance color (which is your proper read) until the relationship has moved on and you know for sure you want to develop a relationship with him.

2) My Upcoming Radio Show

This is just a teaser to tell you that I will have my own radio show in just a few weeks. It will be called The Heart Whisperer and will focus on the various Heart Conditions that people have and how they keep us from having the life we want; romantically, spiritually, joyfully. I'll have guests and always will have time for you to call-in. However, members of WomanToWomanHeartToHeart.com will have first priority. I'll let you know more as we tighten the date and time for our launch.

3) Coaching You To The Love Of Your Life

The women's community, member-based website I launch on the 19th has become a living, loving, breathing thing that is filling my heart with such tenderness, I'm in awe. I am absolutely loving coaching with the members. Every Tuesday morning I stay in my office and take calls from 9:00 until noon. Getting to know these women this way is more fulfilling than I could have imagined. I've always loved coaching but knowing that these women are part of this growing community is so satisfying; it melts my heart. All I can say is if you are not a part of this blossoming group of beautiful women, you're missing out. We all need coaching and mentoring (I have a mentor) because it's impossible for us to see all that is necessary to improve our lives.

As a member, not only will you receive personal coaching several times each month (3 email, weekly phone, weekly chat (as soon as we find the right software) and now my call-in radio show, but you have instant access to all of my current and future books, courses and audio programs. Plus, as our group grows, you will be able to enjoy support from the other members, even creating support groups who share interests. If you want to call me and discuss what being a member can mean for you, my number is 805-705-0561 and I'd love to talk with you. It would be wonderful to know you are sharing in all the benefits that these women are enjoying. And very selfishly {!firstname_fix}, I will get to know you, which I would absolutely adore. Please visit the site and see what you think. WomanToWomanHeartToHeart.com

4) A Fun Little Gift For You and Your Friends

Years ago I wrote a little fairy tale. I recently redid it and would like to give you a fresh new copy. Even if you've read it before, it's nice to be reminded about Where Princes Come From. And please feel free to pass it along to your girlfriends.

Download Where Do Princes Come From? here

From my heart to yours,

The Heart Whisperer ^(TM)

Kara Oh
Your Relationship Coach

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